Don’t Mistake Kindness for Weakness

photo-1450101215322-bf5cd27642fcMy eldest daughter and I like to watch the TV show, Shark Tank. She loves seeing all the new business ideas and the negotiations. We enjoy watching entrepreneurs and business owners pitch their ideas and fight for a good investment.

On one episode, the mild-mannered Shark, Robert Herjavec , makes a profound statement. It takes place during a negotiation with a potential partner, who is driving a hard deal.

Robert looks at his potential business partner with a serious gaze and says firmly, “Do not mistake my kindness for weakness.”

I remember how I felt when I heard him say that. It reminded me of the following verse in Romans 2:4:

“Or do you presume on the riches of his kindness and forbearance and patience, not knowing that God’s kindness is meant to lead you to repentance?” – Romans 2:4 (ESV)

In this passage, the Apostle Paul is speaking to those who know God’s truth but are still running away and doing the opposite. These people are making a dire mistake: they presume that God’s kindness is a sign of weakness—which in reality is anything but! In fact, Paul goes on to speak of the impending wrath of God, which awaits those who do not turn from their sin and look to Jesus.

This verse demonstrates that the intended purpose of God’s kindness is to bring about a changed mind—repentance. Paul is saying that it is not primarily fear of God’s wrath that motivates us to repent; instead it is the power of God’s kindness. His wrath certainly awaits those who do not repent, but we already deserve His wrath, and in His kindness He leads us out of His wrath.

If you or someone you love is running away from Jesus, understand that the temporary comfort that comes from believing that God is okay with it is not the truth. His patience and kindness are an invitation for you—or for that person—to turn from those things and return to Him.

Those of us in preaching and teaching roles may feel tempted to ‘take sides’ when considering the wrath and the kindness of God. But in reality, we cannot have one without the other. If we are not growing in our understanding of the gravity of the wrath of God, then we cannot truly comprehend or experience the kindness of God.

We need to understand that the brokenness, despair, and pain in this life are evidences of the eternal consequences for our sin. Until we understand that, we cannot live with humility and awe of the profound gift of God’s grace given to us by His Son, Jesus.

Jesus lived, died, and rose again so that we wouldn’t have to face God’s punishment, but instead we can receive and enjoy Him. He saves us so that we can experience the unashamed love and grace that he purchased for us on the cross.

We all take God’s kindness for granted or functionally treat it as weakness. We are prone to wander. We are given to self-pleasure. We are easily confused about what we have been rescued from and whom we are being rescued to (see Ephesians 2:1-10).

My prayer is that we would reflect increasingly more on the love, grace, forgiveness, patience, and kindness of our God. By doing so, may he reveal to us areas of unbelief, that we might think more rightly of him and of ourselves in light of his grace.

His wrath is deserved, but his kindness is wooing us to repentance. Let’s walk in response to that great grace!


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The Generosity of a 9-Year-Old Girl

Kenya GiftThis past Sunday, we showed a video at the church I have the privilege to pastor, Christ Community Church of Magnolia, about a new ministry that was launched from our church family called Feed Teach Hope. Later that day, I had a 9-year-old come to me and hand me $50 cash for the mission trip in October. I asked her if she was sure and she replied, “Yes. They need it more than I do. I can earn more.” Continue reading

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The Empty Grave Compels Us to Community

CoffeeCupsLet us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering, for he who promised is faithful. And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near. – Hebrews 10:23-25 (ESV)

As we celebrated Easter yesterday, I found myself reflecting on all of the opportunities and privileges that those who are followers of Jesus are granted because Jesus did, in fact, rise from the dead. One of the most interesting elements is the gift of biblical community.

For some, the idea of being involved with other people, particularly Christians—especially the media’s stereotypical portrayal of Christians—can be less than desirable. However, when you take the time to get to know people who have been impacted and transformed by the risen Christ, you begin to sense that there is more going on than what is on the surface.

In Hebrews 10, the writer encourages those who have been consequentially impacted by the empty tomb to intentionally live out their faith in community with one another. This community is not merely a gathering based upon affinity—that is, everyone being exactly the same; the dynamic community described consists of people from various backgrounds who share the common focus of knowing Jesus and making Him known.

This passage instructs us towards the aim of biblical community and accountability. There is an intention behind believers meeting together. The writer urges them to hold fast to the confession, which is that Jesus in fact did pay it all, and through His death and resurrection, we have a hope for today. This hope is not in our ability to believe but in the object of our faith,

The intentional thrust toward community in this passage focuses on “considering how to stir up one another to love and good works.” The author is essentially saying, “Let’s really know each other, how we each work, how we are gifted. Then we can encourage each other to live daily in response to the Gospel in ways that are consistent with what we believe.”

At Christ Community Church of Magnolia (C3 Magnolia), the church I pastor, we live out this focus through both our Sunday morning gatherings and our Community Groups. The aim of our Community Groups is to fulfill the exhortation in Hebrews 10:23-25 and help people to develop meaningful Christ-centered relationships. We believe that if people have meaningful connections with other believers who consider how to encourage them to be all that Jesus has redeemed them to be, this discipleship inevitably results in great multiplication of disciples who are becoming more like Jesus.

As we celebrate the empty grave, let us heed the encouragement from Hebrews 10:23-25 and not grow tired of gathering with one another, but be intentional to know each other, encouraging one another to grow in our faith, both in our understanding and expression of it.

Perhaps you have been in a season defined by inconsistency or frantic busyness. Maybe you feel like community is something you don’t have time for. Allow me to kindly be a pastor to you and say that you cannot afford to NOT be in community. We have each been saved to be a part of the church, not merely an attendee. I encourage you, if you call C3 Magnolia home, to sign up for a community group today. Feel free to visit a few and find one that you connect to.

If you are not a part of Christ Community Church, then I strongly encourage you, however your local congregation expresses community, to engage in that, whether it be Sunday School, small groups, or Bible studies. Find a way to engage with and encourage those around you, because as you are mutually encouraged, the your community will overflow with the mission of the gospel.

This post is also available on the Christ Community Church of Magnolia Blog.

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